Being Yourself (Not Matter What)

Hey sister,

Being our true selves can be tricky at times. It takes vulnerability to show up as who you really are because not everyone is going to like it.

On the flip side, if you show up as someone else, or hide your true colors from shining through, you’ll feel the greatest pain a woman will ever experience: your own self-betrayal.

This past week I decided to show up as my true self no matter what.

This video will show you what I learned and experienced from showing up as ME, even when it hurt.

I share the good, the bad, and the ugly side of showing up as a leader today, because we truly have no other choice but to be real and speak up for what we believe in. Some people will hate it, but that’s a good thing.

Hope this short and sweet message served you today. Know that I’m in your corner as you bring your message to the world. If my story resonated with you today, or you need any support around similar experiences that you’ve had around speaking up and being yourself, reply to this email and I’ll personally write you back.

love,
Chrissy

What To Do When You’re Feeling Depressed

Dear one,

If you ever find yourself feeling sad or depressed I have a checklist is for you. It’s what I turn to when dark, heavy feelings try to interfere with my sense of aliveness and productivity.

Trust me when I say this, I was in it last week. I felt the very familiar feeling of depression and to be quite honest, it SUCKED. In full transparency, I still go down dark spirals, but the difference between Chrissy now and Chrissy 10 years ago is that I leverage those dark emotions to my advantage today.

I have a recipe for moving through the pain. (Hint: It’s in the pain.)

If you click the video below, you’ll hear how I deal with depression in real time so you can be more productive and effective without losing yourself completely to the dark hole.

I must lovingly disclaim that none of my advice is meant to replace seeing a Doctor or Psychiatrist. If you are on prescription medication for a psychological disorder I honor what you need to do without ANY judgment. Prescription medication was not right for me, but it might be right for you, in which case, THANK YOU for taking responsibility for your health and happiness. 

How do you deal with dark times and get back in the game? Share with me by commenting below.  I’d love to hear your ideas.

All my love to you,
Chrissy

P.S. The Wild Woman Entrepreneur can’t afford to let depression take her out of the game. She must leave her paradigm shifting mark on the planet now. My Wild Woman Entrepreneur Private Coaching program will help you transform your self defeating patterns and crippling emotions into more productivity, clarity, and power. Find out more below because I’m only taking on TWO MORE private clients this month.

My Response to the World Right Now

Screen Shot 2016-06-14 at 4.39.17 PMHey gorgeous,

Have you ever needed a break to come undone? To chill? To rest? To cry? I made the choice to stay away from email for the past week and a half, and let me tell you, it was hard. In the back of my head I heard this voice yell, “YOU MUST BE CONSISTENT, YOU HAVE TO STAY CONNECTED TO YOUR COMMUNITY OR YOU WILL FAIL!”

Luckily I know better than to listen to that voice of fear.

Instead, I trusted my deeper wisdom and chose to disconnect from this platform so I could reconnect to myself. 

I’ve recently returned from a 5 week adventure across Bali and Western Australia. I landed on US Soil on Sunday night and felt in my empathic ways the trouble that my country is in as a Nation (without even turning on my phone). Sure the jet lag might have had something to do with my hyper sensitive emotions, plus the culture shock of returning from a blissed out adventure on the most feminine island in the world, but I felt something pretty painful when I landed inside a nation that was angry, mourning, or even worse, ignoring. I had no choice but to feel the pain of loss.

There are times when we should work, and there are times when we have to mourn. I chose to mourn.

You see, the US has been through A LOT this past month. A primary election that has called forth ugliness and competition all over social media and the news. Sentencing a rapist to only 6 months in jail, bringing to light the ways in which rape culture and white privilege are still working to silence survivors of sexual violence. Then, the Orlando Attack of hatred which killed 49 people inside a space where the LGBTQ community was supposed to feel free and safe. I’m not even counting the thousands of lives who are traumatized and suffering from Post Traumatic Stress as a result of this kind of hate.

Because of these events, I couldn’t go on with business as usual…
And that’s okay.

This kind of madness leaves a collective wound on all of our hearts, whether we’re conscious to it or not. A scar that will harden us over time if we don’t offer it healing balm now.

The healing balm we need now more than ever is love. Love is always the answer, it is always the way through. Love is an unlimited source of energy. When we share our love with others we don’t lose any love, it only expands and multiplies in power.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the Shadow. Shadows function and thrive in the dark. When fear, hatred, jealousy, sexual desire, rage, and anger are suppressed or hidden, and not offered the loving space to be explored or talked about, they will own us. When they’re pushed down or ignored, they WILL find a way out in secondary, sideways ways. Ways in the most extreme cases that are violent; ways that terrorize, rape, and kill.

I wish I had a tangible call to action. I wish I could offer some words of inspiration for the world during these times. All I have is this.

The healing starts with us.
Peace begins with you.
The narrative will change when you change the narrative. 

My hope and prayer today is that every classroom, workplace, and home has the space to process these events. The safe space to process their own shadows, their own shame, their own hate, their own pain, their own anger. And of course, I hope there’s the space to share about love. The love that will always prevail if we let it. The love that leads us when we’re broken.

Then, when the time is right and appropriate, I wonder if we can offer our enemies some love too. I wonder, if maybe… just maybe, we’ll see those enemies were children once, who just wanted to belong. Children who wanted to be heard, seen, and loved. Children who were dealt some shitty lessons and developed damaging tools for living because their basic needs were never met.

I’m not justifying any killer or abuser’s actions, I’m just asking for a new conversation. A new listening. A new hope.

I’m not saying that time is now. I’m not even saying that this is possible. But in my process now I’m committing to ending the discourse of us vs. them and instead only using the word we.  Because at the end of the day, we’re all on the same planet now with the same beating hearts, the same color blood, and the same color tears. This is the only ounce of hope that is getting me by today. I don’t know if this will last, but I’m going to hold on as long as I can.

That’s my message for you today. I have nothing but my brokenness to offer you, and if you’re feeling broken too, I’m here to share your pain.

I’ll see you on the other side, because no feeling is permanent, that I know for sure.

All my love,
Chrissy

How to Feel at Home Wherever You Are in the World

There comes a time, when it’s, just… Time.

Time to speak up. Time to make a video longer than 3 minutes. Time to share the truth despite the discomfort it will bring up inside those who listen. Time to be messy and blubbery. Time to be imperfect. Time to post a video without asking for anyone’s opinion or permission in advance.

Thoughts in my head:
“Is this brand suicide?”
“Will they judge me?”
“What she think?”
“What will HE think?”

I just caught myself writing the words, “I’m sorry for…” and I’m cutting that out now. I’m unapologetically sharing this video as a stand for all women and men who have secrets they’re ashamed to share aloud. I’m shining light on the darkness now, because it’s time.

Instead of “I’m sorry,” I want to say “Thank YOU,” dear sister. Thank you for hearing my story.

Here it is, “How to Feel At Home Wherever You Are In The World.”
A video describing my evolution as a traveler. How I’ve re-written my traumas and anxieties abroad into new stories of resilience and courage as a Wild Woman Entrepreneur.

I posted this video on my Facebook Biz page yesterday after 24 hours (and 9 years) of holding it in. The response has been breathtaking. The support out of the woodwork, the “shares” from complete strangers, and the women who are speaking up now as a result of hearing my story made me cry multiple times yesterday.

Being a Messenger is edgy, scary, and paradigm shifting. What I shared yesterday went against the status quo. I had so much physical, emotional, and mental resistance that I had to move through in order to hit “post,” but I was lifted by a force bigger than my brain, telling me that it was time. I didn’t want to share my story. It was a must. 

I spoke about a taboo that too many women on this earth are silenced by. I the ended silence yesterday in an effort to take back the night of every woman or man who didn’t have the strength, consciousness, or voice to say NO in the moment.

Did you know 1 in 4 women are date raped in the US? That number is horrifying, but the worst part is, that statistic only shows the number of cases reported to the police. Whatever shame you’re still carrying, sister, for anything that has happened to you in the past, I promise you you’re not alone. Healing is available. A new empowering story is available.

If you take a moment to really listen, you’ll notice a New Beginning tugging at your heart right now. Begging you to say YES to your power, strength, and purpose. Are you ready to say Yes?

I know you are.

There’s a pull in every woman’s heart for freedom. For me, I had to transform my pain into my purpose- that’s where I found it.

all my love and gratitude,
Chrissy

P.S. If you were touched by this message today, please share what opened up for you in the comments below. I’m here to celebrate you, sister.  If you know a friend who could benefit from this message today, send her the link.  We’re all in this together.

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How To Feel Great About Your Body (in 20 minutes) When You Feel Like Shit and Don’t Want to Wear a Swimsuit in Public.

IMG_0168Hey from Bali, gorgeous!

Do you ever struggle with your body? Does the thought of wearing a swimsuit make you want to crawl into a hole? Maybe you tell yourself, “When I lose those last 10 to 20 pounds, I’ll be happy.” Or maybe you compare yourself to every other woman out there who has a “better body” than you.

Believe it or not, as I travel the island of Bali in a swimsuit 90% of the time, similar thoughts have been coming up for me which have knocked me so far off the spiritual wagon that I’ve questioned my sanity at times.

Here I am, on a trip of a lifetime, on the the most spiritual island in the world, worrying about my body.

More specifically, my stomach.

I want to share with you in real time how I deal with body shame; how I move through the judgements and settle back into love with 5 simple steps. I’ve used these steps on myself, and as proof that they work, I just asked Steve to take us a nude beach next. This sh*t works.

Why am I sharing about this? Because this pain isn’t just mine.

Body Shame is a Western Woman’s disease that we’ve inherited from the media, photoshop, Victoria’s Secret, and every Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. It’s time to end this cycle for our daughters and daughter’s daughters; it starts with us.

But wait, what does this have to do with business?
How we do one thing is how we do everything.

At the beginning of the year I shared my new monthly income goal with my coach, and she asked me why I desired that number. My response was, “because I don’t want to worry about money again.”

She lovingly invited me back into reality, and told me that even if I made $20-$50k that month, my worry about money won’t go away. My beliefs about money must shift first, or else I’ll be chasing numbers with the same worrying thoughts chasing me.

In other words, your beliefs and consciousness around money must transform before the money comes in, not the other way around.

Now let’s relate this to your body. If you believe that you’ll be happy once you lose the weight, you’ll keep running around the hamster wheel chasing happiness with yo-yo dieting. What if you chose to love your body, now? Exactly as it is? Not just loving how it looks. But loving it with your choices. That’s when the happiness and acceptance shows up. Your beauty can’t be denied when you choose to love your body now, with your thoughts and actions.

Here’s the video recorded from our amazing villa in Bali! Click the image below to watch.

Afterthoughts…

As I prepare to take over the Celebration of Woman workshop as a certified Facilitator in September, which supports women in loving and accepting their bodies as they are now, all my lingering shadows are showing up for me to feel through and heal. This is the Rite of Passage I speak up so often. I’m in it, and I’m grateful.

When we step into the light our shadows are going to show up whether we want them to or not (when we least expect it). Like right now, on my blissed out vacation in Bali.

Thank you for ending the body shame cycle with me, and if you need any support in this area, don’t hesitate to reach out by responding to this email. I always love hearing from you!

love,
Chrissy
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Why I Love Being A Woman (When I Used To Hate It)

Hey gorgeous,

Today, I love being a woman- but I used to hate it.

  • I used to hate the attention I attracted on the street because I felt unsafe and objectified.
  • I used to hate my hips and broad shoulders, despising my feminine physique because I looked different than my teammates on the track team.
  • I used to hate my menstrual cycle and the mood swings that came with it.
  • I used to hate my feelings so I ran to prescription medication to manage my anxiety, depression, and anger.
  • I used to hate dancing so I turned to alcohol for the courage to move and have fun.
  • I used to hate being alone so I settled for ANYONE who would date me.

You get the picture….

The good news is, those self-deprecating cycles ended when I participated in a workshop that changed my perception of being a woman FOREVER.

The workshop is Celebration of Woman, a 3.5 day retreat designed for women to remember who they really are. I participated in this workshop for the first time 4 years ago, making a vow to bring this work to other women so they can experience the similar healing and self acceptance.

I’m now returning from leading this workshop for the 6th time, and I’m more awake than ever to the power of being a woman. Something so beautiful happens when “all is welcome” – when a woman is cheered for and celebrated through her own darkness and back into the light. Look at these gorgeous women below!

This workshop allows every woman to experience basic feminine freedoms:
The freedom to be seen.
The freedom to speak up.
The freedom to love her body as a temple.
The freedom to dance.
The freedom to sit in stillness.
The freedom to be happy.
The freedom to be real.
The freedom to love.
The freedom to forgive.
The freedom to believe in something bigger than herself.

I feel moved to share this with you because I trust in my gut that you desire these freedoms as well.

Do you desire to put the laptop away and give the woman behind the business the attention and love she deserves to let go?
Are you longing to be seen and heard inside a safe and loving space to heal old stories and pains?
Do you want to love your body exactly as it is now?
Do you want to love yourself, and I mean..all of yourself?
Do you want to claim back your joy after years of exhaustion and putting others first? 

It’s possible!

A woman’s birthright is to love. When you have the space to release all the baggage that keeps you up at night, your essence of love is revealed. It’s a kind of self-love that you get to define for yourself at the workshop.

Our workshops are filling up FAST, so if you want to to claim your spot in our September workshop, I invite you to set up a call with me. 

http://chrissybradysmith.com/discovery-session/

I want to get to know you and support your struggles as a woman.  

To every woman who came home to her TRUE self this weekend, thank you for your courage.. I love you.

love,
Chrissy

P.S. Our next workshop is taking place in San Luis Obispo, California: September 22-25th. You want in? Set up a call with me here:

http://chrissybradysmith.com/discovery-session/

 I can’t wait to get to know you.

Wild Woman’s Guide to Anger: Video Inside

Hey gorgeous,

Do you feel stuck in your business right now? Unsure of where to go next? Do you find yourself getting super activated and charged about things that shouldn’t cause you so much pain? Do you find yourself “acting out” in ways that don’t feel aligned with your true self? Do you keep using affirmations or mantras to get through the dark times, but wind up right where you started?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone. I have a solution for you, and it’s pretty simple.

Feel your anger. 

Anger has a pretty bad reputation, and I’m here to set the record straight.

This video will teach you about the fiery, powerful nature of this emotion and the damage it causes when you ignore it, suppress it, or try and change it.  I’ll also teach you how to leverage your anger in healthy and responsible ways so you can break through your upper limits of success and happiness + so much more.  Click the image below to watch.

Let me know what you think! Reply to this email with any questions or comments. I can’t wait to get a healthy conversation started on one of my favorite subjects.

to your fiery passion,
Chrissy

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When the Alarm Went Off, What Did You Do?

WY3_3298-Edit (2)Hey Gorgeous,

I invite you to go back in time, to the second you woke up this morning. How did it go?

Did you:

  • Wake up in a frenzy?
  • Immediately go on Facebook or Instagram?
  • Worry about getting everything done?
  • Feel the incessant need to prove yourself in some way?
  • Beat yourself for something you did wrong the day before?
  • Dread the day ahead and wish you could go back to sleep?

If you woke up with total peace this morning, BRAVO! I’d love to hear about your morning routine.

If you woke up in a frenzy of worry, pull up a seat, sister, we have to talk. 

It’s so easy for success-driven women to forget about their our own inner peace.

Peace for me is the inner knowing that I’m enough exactly as I am. But life hasn’t always been that easy peasy and woo-woo.  

Here’s how my life used to be…

My need to be loved and accepted by others overshadowed my basic primal need to love myself. I was a workaholic; I stayed insanely busy in order to hide from my pain.

I used prescription medication, romance, and food to heal a very spiritual problem; I felt unworthy. I felt less than. I searched outside myself for answers, love, and acceptance.

My worries were rooted in the fear-based messaging of my ego telling me that I wasn’t enough. No matter how hard I worked, and how many accomplishments I fulfilled, I still fell asleep at night feeling worthless! 

And then I woke up. I made the decision that life didn’t have to be this painful. I started listening to the voice of my true self. I invested in support.

I attended some seminars and workshops which blew my mind and heart open, and I made the decision to hire my first transformational coach. I didn’t want to go around in circles like I did in therapy, I wanted real change. I wanted to breakthrough my limitations FAST. 

In only one hour with my first coach, I healed the root cause of my unworthiness, and let that belief go. I created a new and empowering belief system full of worthiness, empowerment, and self-love. As a result of that one hour, a whole new world opened up for me. 

I ended my teaching career and now own my own business, not to prove my worth, but because it’s my purpose and service to the planet. I’m in a healthy and empowering relationship with a partner who meets me as I am and inspires me to be the best version of myself. I workout because my body loves it, not because I need to look perfect. My perfection lies in the love I have for my body as it is NOW.

When you’re enough exactly as you are, there’s nothing to prove. All you have to do is be- and that’s where the peace sets in.  

Now back to you, love…

What if you woke up every morning with energy, delight, stillness and excitement all at once? No longer needing to prove your worth or talent- simply having the confidence to show up exactly as you are? 

With a shift in perception, you can be enough too.

If you’re ready to give real transformation a shot, I invite you to get on the phone with me. 

On a discovery call with me, we will give your true self a voice. Not the voice of “should,” or “I don’t know,” or “I’m not worth it,” instead we will focus on your desires. Desires are a woman’s fuel! They make you, you. It’s my belief that you and only you have the answers. I’ll hold the space for you to discover your next steps for living with total empowerment as a wild woman entrepreneur.

You’ll receive clarity and inner peace so you can start a love affair with yourself and be enough- exactly as you are- NOW.

If you want to take me up on this FREE offer, click the link below:
>>> http://chrissybradysmith.com/discovery-session/

can’t wait to hear from you,
Chrissy

P.S. What if your fears actually made you more brave? That’s what’s available for you after 45 minutes with me.

Feeling Stuck? Follow Your Love.

Hey gorgeous,

Have you reached a certain level of success in business but feel a little bit… off? Stuck?

Is your to-do list never ending? Do those checks off the list make you feel more stressed, no longer giving you the relief you expect?

If you find yourself thinking “I’m not enough” after all those checks off the list, you’re in the right place.

Today’s message is addressing this issue for Women Leaders.

“I’m not Enough” is the conversation blinding women entrepreneurs of their potential.

This Deficit Epidemic tells us that in order to succeed you have to DO more and fill voids of unworthiness so you can be good enough.

Sure, the Dalai Lama called women leaders forth to save the world, but if we continue to DO, DO, DO, and forget to receive, dance, and believe, your love will not be realized and your legacy will be left in the dust.

Check out the Business Woman’s formula for success:
(Do + Give + Suppress + Push + Deliver + Freak Out) Repeat = Crash.

This is a formula for overwhelm and zero connection to your larger vision and purpose.

I’m calling bullsh*t on this conversation. The Way of the Business Woman is an old story.

We need a new formula. We need a new blueprint. 

A successful business isn’t the number one goal of the wild woman entrepreneur.

A fulfilled Soul is.

Your whole human experience must be supported as a woman entrepreneur. When your emotions are ignored and your energy depletes, it’s impossible to believe in yourself and go to the next level of impact.

The next level of impact requires a feminine energy you may have forgotten about.

It’s your love.

Today more than ever our world needs balance, clarity, healing and LOVE. The power of your love as a feminine leader is remarkable. If you follow this love, you’ll get exactly what you want in this lifetime. Your only job is to listen to yourself. Your true self.

My assignment for you this week is to follow your love first and last. 

What words do you love? Collage them on Pinterest.
What outfits do you love? Wear them.
Who do you love? Spend time with them.
What meals do you love? Eat them.
What does your body love? Receive it.
What subjects do you love? Write, teach, coach, and speak about them.

Love is the bottom line for the Wild Woman Entrepreneur.

Notice what opens up today and tomorrow when you follow your love. You’ll find the inspiration you’ve waiting for. You can’t go wrong when you you add more LOVE to your life.

It’s so simple.
Your love is who you are. 

When you strip away the plan, who’s underneath the goal? Who’s underneath the worry? The Wild Woman Entrepreneur is glorious without any effort.

When you DO from the space of LOVE, your work becomes an act of freedom and contribution. When you work from the space of I AM ENOUGH NOW, there’s no way to feel defeated, less than, or unworthy.

This is when the magic happens. 

Follow your soul, not the goal.

Your soul will take you light years beyond any goal of your mind.

As you take your LOVE on, please please keep me posted by commenting below anytime you have a breakthrough. I want to hear about it!

love,
Chrissy

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Hatred & Love

Hey gorgeous,

Relaxation is my favorite past time. My boyfriend has another word for it – laziness – but I disagree. Two summer’s ago I found myself blissed out at my favorite Hot Springs sanctuary up north, and I want to share an embarrassing yet transformational experience with you.

…………………..

There I was, relaxing alone in the steam room. Life was good. Stillness, peace, and clarity.

10 minutes later another human being enters the scene. Soon after he sits down, I hear the sharp, squeaky pressure of blades going against his head.

{Chrissy’s ego} 
He’s shaving his head! Shaving his head in my blissed out sanctuary. Gross. Who honestly shaves his head in a public space? Is that even sanitary? A space where we’re asked to sit in silence? I can hear the flick of tiny hairs thrown down the drain at my feet, EWW!

I was SO grossed out. It didn’t take long to notice my state of relaxation slowly transforming into agitation and irritability.

I felt a familiar emotion that I often try to deny: Hatred. I hated this guy.

Me, the life coach, hating an absolute stranger for shaving his head and distracting me.

So I looked within and asked for guidance.
{Enter Wild Woman}
What’s the opportunity here? How can I turn this around?

Then these words leapt out of my mouth before another thought could hold me back, “Do you need any help?”

{Chrissy’s ego}
Oh shit. Did I just say that? Please ignore me.. Please don’t respond.

With huge smile on his face he said, “Wow.. that would be awesome!”

So I walked over,  took his razor, and to my delight realized he had done such a botch job it would have been rude of me to NOT to help him.

There I was shaving a stranger’s head.
I moved from hatred to love fast.
All I had to do was look within for the “soul” opportunity.

We got connected, shared some laughs, and my boiling anger cooled off into compassion, friendship, and dare I say, love.

When you feel your hate instead of trying to hide it, your love gets a wink to come out and play.

Why am I sharing this story with you?

Every single emotion that you feel makes you a whole and integrated human. Just like chocolate chip cookies need sugar and chocolate chips for sweetness, they also need the eggs, baking soda, and flour which are fowl and messy on their own. Mix ’em all together and you’ll get a glorious treat.

Whatever you’re feeling on this entrepreneurial journey, I assure you, you’re not alone. Do you feel jealous? Do you feel angry? Frustrated? Anxious? Ashamed? Overwhelmed? I guarantee there’s GOLD hidden under those emotions if you feel them with love and acceptance. Feel the feeling, ask for the lesson, and then find your message. It’s there.

Your genius could very well be underneath your uncomfortable emotion. The more you expose it, the more light can shine through.

all my love,
Chrissy

P.S. Do you desire more emotional support as a woman Entrepreneur? The bonuses for my Wild Woman Entrepreneur program end in 4 days! In this program I’ll help you find your Soul Message that will carry you through all the burnout, overwhelm, anxiety and fear that you will undoubtedly face on this journey.  Set up a discovery call with me to see if this program is right for you: http://chrissybradysmith.com/discovery-session/