Do you ever struggle with your body? Does the thought of wearing a swimsuit make you want to crawl into a hole? Maybe you tell yourself, “When I lose those last 10 to 20 pounds, I’ll be happy.” Or maybe you compare yourself to every other woman out there who has a “better body” than you.
Believe it or not, as I travel the island of Bali in a swimsuit 90% of the time, similar thoughts have been coming up for me which have knocked me so far off the spiritual wagon that I’ve questioned my sanity at times.
Here I am, on a trip of a lifetime, on the the most spiritual island in the world, worrying about my body.
More specifically, my stomach.
I want to share with you in real time how I deal with body shame; how I move through the judgements and settle back into love with 5 simple steps. I’ve used these steps on myself, and as proof that they work, I just asked Steve to take us a nude beach next. This sh*t works.
Why am I sharing about this? Because this pain isn’t just mine.
Body Shame is a Western Woman’s disease that we’ve inherited from the media, photoshop, Victoria’s Secret, and every Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. It’s time to end this cycle for our daughters and daughter’s daughters; it starts with us.
But wait, what does this have to do with business?
How we do one thing is how we do everything.
At the beginning of the year I shared my new monthly income goal with my coach, and she asked me why I desired that number. My response was, “because I don’t want to worry about money again.”
She lovingly invited me back into reality, and told me that even if I made $20-$50k that month, my worry about money won’t go away. My beliefs about money must shift first, or else I’ll be chasing numbers with the same worrying thoughts chasing me.
In other words, your beliefs and consciousness around money must transform before the money comes in, not the other way around.
Now let’s relate this to your body. If you believe that you’ll be happy once you lose the weight, you’ll keep running around the hamster wheel chasing happiness with yo-yo dieting. What if you chose to love your body, now? Exactly as it is? Not just loving how it looks. But loving it with your choices. That’s when the happiness and acceptance shows up. Your beauty can’t be denied when you choose to love your body now, with your thoughts and actions.
As I prepare to take over the Celebration of Woman workshop as a certified Facilitator in September, which supports women in loving and accepting their bodies as they are now, all my lingering shadows are showing up for me to feel through and heal. This is the Rite of Passage I speak up so often. I’m in it, and I’m grateful.
When we step into the light our shadows are going to show up whether we want them to or not (when we least expect it). Like right now, on my blissed out vacation in Bali.
Thank you for ending the body shame cycle with me, and if you need any support in this area, don’t hesitate to reach out by responding to this email. I always love hearing from you!
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