The Power of a New Beginning

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Yesterday I led one of  my favorite workshops, New Beginnings. To the right you’ll see the picture of our altar in which everyone brought a special object to share as a way to create sacred space. What a special day it was!

I created and led this workshop for the first time in January of 2013. I was a teacher at the time and was struggling in that career because I knew in my heart that I wasn’t following my true calling. My gifts were stifled inside a classroom regulated by rules and standards which worked to bankrupt the minds and hearts of my beautiful students.

I knew I was meant for something different, with more meaning and personal passion but I didn’t know how to get there. I was blinded by fear and self-doubt.

On January 26th of 2013, I decided to trust my gut and brought three things I loved most inside a tiny living room in San Francisco: human beings, truth, and feelings. My co-facilitator and I created a New Beginnings workshop for 10 of my closest friends to let go of the past and step into 2015 with hope, love and commitment.

Even though I was terrified to put myself out there, I followed my passion through every fear, tear, and sleepless night and landed inside my purpose.

Leading that workshop was the most important day of my career because it created me as the coach and facilitator that I am today. The ten participants who arrived as separate individuals left the workshop as one. Their hearts went through precious healing and their self-doubt transformed into unyielding confidence.  They got their “new beginning” and I got mine too.

I’ve now led over 25 workshops and retreats and I own a life coaching business that lights me up. I don’t question for one minute what I’m up to in the world because I’m living my truth with heart, passion and presence. The bonus? I get paid for being myself.

Give yourself permission to follow your desires. You can’t go wrong.

With your passion as your torch, shine your way out of the darkness into who you’re meant to be.

Blessings to you on your fearless and passionate journey,
Chrissy

P.S. Ready for your New Beginning?
Let’s have a free discovery call to map out your reinvention process so you can feel happy, alive and fulfilled. I work with women like you who who want to be leaders but struggle with fear and self-doubt. I help you find your confidence and purpose through one-on-one “Reinvention” coaching in self-love, mindfulness, and lifestyle design so you feel empowered to live out your calling.

6 Ways to Expect Success

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Hey ladies,

I’ve received a number of questions lately about what I do to create and sustain success and happiness. My answer is mindset. I don’t wish for success and happiness, I expect it, then get after it like my life depends on it (because it does).

Here are 6 Ways for YOU to Expect Success:

1. Create a consistent morning routine that feels good. 
Your mornings can make or break your day. I hear these excuses all the time, “I don’t have time to meditate… I don’t have time to make a good breakfast… ” But do you have time to feel crappy? It’s taken me YEARS to commit to this and even though it’s a struggle I have noticed this truth: when my morning routine is rockin’, my LIFE is rockin’ too. All routines are different and it’s up to you to make one that works. My routine involves hot lemon water, meditation, yoga, journaling, and intention setting followed by an energizing breakfast. Please note, waking up and jumping straight to the phone to check email or Facebook is NOT on this list. That’s an invitation for stress, fear, and comparison.

2. Follow your joy. 
What brings you joy, lights you up and makes you smile? What activities make you lose track of time? What do you truly desire? When you follow your unique desires, you become more of you.  And sister, we need you. Desires and joy are a woman’s fuel. Schedule your happiness boosts into your calendar and be unapologetic about it. Genuine happiness keeps the fears and addictions at bay.

3. Show up no matter what. 
My definition of “showing up” is taking action that aligns with my highest good. If you’re ever feeling stressed or afraid, you might notice yourself staying hidden and small. In those moments, you have a choice to show up for your highest good. Does showing up mean giving yourself the space to be alone and rest? Does it mean getting your ass to a workout so your body can move? Is it calling a friend or writing in your journal? When you show up (no matter what) there’s massive transformation available on the other side. Showing up in the face of fear shows you what you’re made of.  Showing up in the face of resistance allows you to grow.

4. Be true to your purpose. 
Last week I showed up to yoga (even though my mind told me I was too tired) and left the class transformed and inspired. The teacher read this quote from the Bhagavad-Gita: “It is better to strive in one’s own dharma than to succeed in the dharma of another. Nothing is ever lost in following one’s own dharma, but competition in another’s dharma breeds fear and insecurity.” As a Western yogini, I replace dharma with purpose, and boom, there’s my mission in life.

Follow your desires, passion, and purpose- and success and happiness will be yours. The minute you start faking it by following someone else’s dream, truth or rules you lose yourself. Pleasing others + playing safe inside a game that isn’t yours in the first place is the formula for self-betrayal and loss. Create your game, make your own rules, and find the teammates to stoke your fire.

5. Be a magnet for what you want.  
“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” The universe is listening and your energy has phenomenal power. You can use your thoughts, feelings, or imagination for greatness or defeat. Something so beautiful happens when a woman decides that she is a “success” long before she receives any award, compensation, or acknowledgement. When you put your focus, time, energy and emotion into a desire, the manifestation process begins. Your belief is where the magic happens.

6. Get support. 
This is the most important step. I am unapologetic about receiving and investing in support. I have a women’s circle for sisterhood. I have a spiritual coach for my healing process. I have a success coach for my business mastery. I even have a romance coach for my relationship’s intimacy and pleasure. I see support as a blessing, not a weakness. Thinking that you have to (miserably) do everything on your own is an old and archaic story.

Are you ready to receive the support you deserve and long for? Do you know you want to make a difference but don’t know where to start? Are you ready for a new beginning but don’t know how to make the transition? Do you have a creative project that needs accountability? Do you want to make money doing what you love?

Do you want to be the happy and fulfilled?

Let’s have a free discovery session and create a game plan for you to make 2015 the best year of your life. My team will get back to you to set up our phone or Skype appointment and I can’t wait to meet you!

To your success and happiness,
Chrissy

6 Ways to Awaken Your Creative Genius

imagesIncase you missed my last post about how to powerfully complete 2014, check it out.  After emptying and completing 2014 through my own reflection, ritual, and massive cleaning and letting go- new energy has opened up inside. My energy leaks have been handled and healed, giving me permission to focus my attention on what matters most: my purpose, health, and relationships.

Now that you’re making a new beginning for yourself in 2015, you might notice overwhelm or fear surrounding the possibilities that lie ahead. 

When you’re stuck in fear or self-doubt, it’s easy to forget how powerful you are. When you’re stressed, there’s no way to access your creativity because the hormone cortisol triggers your “fight or flight” response which shuts down your brain functions for problem-solving and imagination.

Here are 6 ways to awaken your creative genius when you’re feeling stuck. 

1. Move your body.
When you work out or dance, your body flushes out cortisol and your pituitary gland releases endorphins to activate your creativity.  When you notice stress come up, take a break and choose a fun workout. If you don’t have a ton of time, put on a crazy song and dance! Shake up your frustrations and notice the creative ideas that you stir as a result. Some of my best ideas have been conceived after Ecstatic Dance in Oakland, California.

2. Bring bloodflow to your brain.

Go upside down! Do a (safe) headstand or go into downward dog. Bring blood-flow to your brain and get a new perspective. When I’m stuck inside writer’s block or stress, I turn the energy around with a headstand every. single. time. In fact my last headstand inspired this post! I was spinning in fear and after one minute upside down, I was on the computer typing up a storm. Can’t do a headstand? Here are other safe options that have the same benefit.

3. Emotional release.
Give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling and cry it out. Crying is essential for the release of blocked creativity and it’s perfectly healthy! We are feminine beings, and like the ocean we need to surrender to our waves and currents. Long ago I wanted to be a doula, and in my studies I learned that rapid progress in birth is often made after an emotional release. One woman was dilated at 3 cm and was told that she couldn’t birth her baby without pitocin or emergency measures. She had a good cry, and 20 minutes later pushed her baby out at full dilation. Her crying caused a release which allowed her cervix to open. Am I inviting you to give birth to a baby? Nope, but your crying might give birth to the creative project that the world is waiting for.

4. Have faith.
Faith trumps fear. Have faith in yourself and surrender to your higher power. Pray for a miracle. Pray to be shown the light. When you are open to a miracle, the support shows up in the strangest of places because you’re open to receiving. Believe that you will get there and surrender.

5. Help someone. 
Contribution ends suffering. When you help someone, you get out of your own s#it and into a space of generosity and support. This activates your kindness, your love, and your connection. You’re not alone anymore, and you’re using your gifts for good.

6. Simmer.
Let your ideas simmer and rest. The best form of simmering in my opinion takes place in a hot tub, sauna, or on a massage table. Taking exquisite care of yourself must be non-negotiable if you want to be an agent for change. When you’re taken care of and working from a space of self-love, your survival energies are eased and your gifts get to thrive from a calm place of flow… and feminine creatures are meant to flow!

Are you ready to find your purpose? Do you want to fall in love with yourself and transform your insecurities into your strengths? I’m here to support you in unleashing your creativity so your gifts can be expressed with purpose and passion. My 2015 calendar has opened up for private coaching, and it would be my honor to support you in creating the BEST year of your life.  To schedule a free discovery session and my team will get back to you to schedule a call with me.

I’m so excited to see what you create for yourself this year and look forward to hearing from you.

All my love,
Chrissy

For information on my upcoming workshops, click the links below:
New Beginnings January 25th
Celebration of Woman: February 26th- March 1. Early discount to save $200 ends next week!

How to Complete the Past

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January is my favorite time of year to let go of what no longer serves me so I can step into the new year with empowerment and clarity. I’ve included three rituals for you use to complete 2014 so you can welcome the best year of your life from a clear and empty space. At the end of this post, you will find the details for my one-day New Beginnings Workshop which will be held in Lafayette, California on January 25th. This workshop is the perfect space for you to let go of the past and create 2015 with commitment and inspiration.

Rituals to Complete the Past

1. Create a Year in Review: What about 2014 are you grateful for? Gratitude turns problems into gifts, chaos into peace, confusion into clarity, and the surprises into perfect timing.

Go through your 2014 Calendar and honor your experiences, challenges, and accomplishments month by month. Where did you choose love? What did you accomplish this past year that you would like to celebrate? What are your favorite memories that you never want to forget? Write down your accomplishments in your journal, and celebrate your abundance, generosity, love, and growth.

2. Let Go: Letting go is the path to freedom. As we let go, the tender ground of honesty, healing and love will carry us through the world. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the upset and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.

This is your chance to consider the behavior, beliefs or habits of 2014 that you would like to leave behind. What negative beliefs no longer serve you?  What bitterness is still in your heart? What pain are you ready to say goodbye to? Write what you’re letting go of on small slips of paper, and burn each fear, belief, or painful circumstance in a fire. Watch your past disappear. Honor this process with a bow or a prayer, asking the Divine for love, guidance, and support in completion.

3. Create Space: Creating space allows new energy channels of abundance, love, spirituality and creativity to flow.  When your life is cluttered, your creative energies are blocked as well.

Now that you have completed your past emotionally, now you get to complete the past physically. This week I invite you to create space by eliminating energy drains. Tackle your home and let go of any items that no longer serve you. Donate clothes that you haven’t worn in a year to charity. Throw away expired spices and foods from the pantry. Do parts of your home bring up overwhelm, avoidance, and/or claustrophobia? Are there drawers that you refuse to open because of clutter and disorganization? Take action and face what needs to be faced. A whole new world is on the other side of this organization and completion.

Want to complete 2014 inside a safe and loving community? My next one-day workshop, is coming up on January 25th.   This New Beginnings workshop is designed for you to complete the past so you can step into 2015 with commitment, inspiration, and clarity. This experiential workshop is an intimate space for you to transform your desires into realities so your New Years resolutions actually stick.  From an empty and celebrated space, you will create the best year of your life with brothers and sisters to support you along the way. The space is limited, so please get your deposit in soon to reserve your space! If you have any questions, please feel free to email my team at Chrissy@chrissybradysmith.com and we will support you as soon as possible.

All my love,
Chrissy

5 Ways to Handle Your Holiday Blues

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For much of the world, the holiday season is a time of family, celebration, and abundance. You may love this time of year and cherish every blessing this season brings, and if that’s the case, I’m so happy for you!! I am in a different category. The holidays have this remarkable way of bringing up what I need to see.  I mostly feel overwhelm, sadness, and exhaustion during this time of year.

Every December, year after year,  I notice myself asking “Why?”

Why am I different? Why is this time of year so hard?

When I tune into my Internal Sanctuary of Awareness: a term I’ve coined as the temple of my truth, my gut and soul; I notice how useless those questions are. Those questions are forms of resistance created by the ego, the structure designed to keep me out of the present moment. When I drop into “what’s so” in real time with total acceptance, my truth is: The holidays are hard for me. That’s it. No story. No drama. “Why” doesn’t matter when I have the truth.

If you are anything like me and find yourself experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, or sadness during the holidays, I have some useful tips for you.

Tip #1
Your suffering ends when you accept where you’re at and let yourself off the hook.
When those thoughts of “why” take you down the rabbit hole of shame by making yourself wrong, you have been hijacked by your ego. Questioning where you’re at is a form of resistance, and resistance is the nemesis to self-love and presence. What you resist persists. Compassionately accept where you’re at and find love ASAP. Love yourself madly and give yourself a break! Have a good cry and give yourself permission to be where you are.

Tip #2
Find connection.
Suffering happens in isolation. The human spirit is meant for connection! Even though I was surrounded by friends and family this holiday season, I kept my overwhelming thoughts to myself which isolated me into thinking I was alone in my experience. When I opened up to my mom and boyfriend about the anxiety I was feeling, I felt heard, seen and received. I wasn’t alone anymore.  I was open to connection and I felt so much relief after sharing my truth.

Tip #3
Get crystal clear on what you need and communicate it lovingly and clearly.
I needed alone time! I changed around my holiday plans to get some solo time in before the end of 2014. While I’m outgoing by nature, I’m an introvert at heart. My body, emotions, and mind told me something was off during Christmas, so I listened to my nervous system and chose relaxation and reflection on my own terms instead of going up to my family’s cabin. I’ll be honest, my communication could have been more loving and clear…  Luckily, my wise and loving mother held the space for me to communicate this need with zero guilt. (Love you, Mom!) True power is communicating what you want and what you don’t want lovingly and clearly with zero attachment to the outcome. This communication technique is a skill that I work on every single day, and trust me, I’m a work in progress.

Tip #4
Take action through self-love.
I knew I needed alone time, but more than anything, I needed massive self-love. I decided to commit two days to nourishing my heart, body, and mind with one simple goal of pleasure! I did yoga, meditated A LOT, cooked decadent meals, read on the beach, and then when I was more open to affection and connection with others, I cuddled with my man.

Tip #5
Find inspiration
Yesterday I read Cheryl Strayed’s book, Wild on the beach in SF. This woman speaks her truth with vulnerability and has been a real teacher for me at this point in my life. After death, divorce, drugs, and major self-deprecation, Cheryl commits to finding herself again on the Pacific Crest Trail with zero experience and a heavy backpack of dreams. She makes every mistake in the book on her 3 month hiking journey, but doesn’t give up ONCE on her mission. If this woman could persevere after such loss, I could get through this holiday season. This backpacking trip was Cheryl’s radical expression of self-love and her words inspire me to be the best version of myself.

Where in life are you abandoning your needs and self-care? 
How are you willing to love yourself?

Remember the treasure you are on the planet now. You have a special gift that the world needs. When you’re overworked, stressed or overwhelmed by guilt to please others, your gifts are blocked from their full-expression! Give yourself the gift of self-love and see what opens up for you.

Much love,
Chrissy

My next Retreat is the perfect space to develop self-love for LIFE:
Celebration of Woman, February 26-March 1st in San Luis Obispo.
Early discount to save $200 ends January 15th!

Let’s have a free call to see if this retreat is right for you.

 

Money Mindset and Freedom

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One year ago I made a massive investment in a program to support my business. The cost was 8x my rent. As a result of this purchase I transformed my relationship with money which in turn changed my relationship with the world. This blog post will explain why.

Money is currency and currency is energy.
When I paid for the program, I energetically opened up to my purpose and in turn opened to receiving support, guidance, and today- more money in my bank account than I ever dreamed of as a teacher. Does having money make me selfish, greedy, or bad? Not at all. It has actually made me more generous, more at ease, and more capable of sharing my message with the world. Here’s why.

Money is simply energy, it’s neutral, neither good nor bad. We hear people criticizing money for being immoral, or obsessing over it for being the source of all joy. Neither is true. Just as water is good for you when you’re dehydrated and bad when you don’t have an umbrella- money is merely a neutral force which people can use or misuse. How you use it is what matters.

Investing in Gina’s program represented the conception of my Fearless Purposebrand, an idea that needed a midwife to birth. Gina was my midwife, and I went through the labor, the pains, and self-doubt with the mentor who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. By investing in this program, I transformed my blueprint around money and took the inspired action necessary to live out my purpose. That financial investment fueled my energy to become a thriving transformational coach. Money was simply the exchange to get me where I am today.

Here are some questions I invite you to consider:
What would open up for you if you were totally empowered financially? What would you do if money didn’t stop you? Who would you be? Where would you go?

Maybe it’s impossible to imagine a life being financially empowered.  Maybe it’s easy and you’re ready for it now. I honor wherever you’re at. I used to be so blocked financially that I gave my services away for free because I didn’t want to appear selfish or greedy and my self-worth suffered in the process. I didn’t have the money to take care of my body, and I didn’t have the consciousness to believe in my dreams. When my money channels were blocked- my desires and vitality were blocked too.

What opened up for me as a result of healing my Money Story? I got after my dreams like my hair was on fire. I stopped procrastinating and wasn’t afraid to invest the time, energy and money necessary to build my business as a coach. That included a non-negotiable of self-care including: massages, spa appointments, yoga packages and retreats in hot springs. The bonus? I called in the romantic partner whose values aligned with my own, and today we’re creating a profound partnership based on honesty, support, intimacy, integrity, and joy.

What I wanted in romance was exactly what I wanted with money! When I allowed money to support me, the man showed up to support me as well. When I got intimate with my bank account, I opened up to intimacy in romance. How we do one thing is how we do everything. If you’re struggling with money, chances are your self-worth, survival, and level of belonging is struggling too.

All too often I see women putting their dreams aside because they “don’t have the money.” I stand for women having clean and empowered relationships with their finances so their dreams are no longer stifled due to old stories, tapes and wounds.  I’m here to help you change your money mindset so you can live the life you deserve and long for.

The “financial healing work” I do with women is about your purpose to change the world.

If you want to be a world leader, you have to be able to give and receive money without guilt or shame. We have centuries of oppression to heal ladies!   We carry old money stories and wounds with us every single day. When you stand for your own financial freedom by healing your money story, you stand for the financial freedom of every woman who doesn’t have the resources, voice, literacy, power, or vote to receive her desires and needs. Our transformation is hers as well, and she needs to see you!

Want to start the New Year with total empowerment financially, emotionally, and spiritually? My signature 90 Day Self-Love Program is designed for you to fall in love with every aspect of your life, including your relationship with money. Together we will honor your desires as a woman and create the radical change necessary for you to live an extraordinary life full of purpose and financial freedom.

As a New Year’s bonus, I’m including my new e-Book:  Money, Mindset, Freedom, an interactive course containing 30 pages of process work, journaling prompts, and universal laws to support you in transforming your money story once and for all.

On top of the transformation you will receive in the workbook, you will get 12 weekly 1 hour sessions to anchor in the psychic surgery you perform on your money channels so you can explode your purpose into the world.

Transforming your relationship to money is possible! If me, the struggling preschool teacher who barely made $1k/ month could do it, you can do it too.  I have the formula, the readings, and the guidance to support you in re-writing your money blueprint so you can live a life of purpose and passion NOW.

Do it for you, and do it for every woman on the planet who is waiting for you to shine.

Set up your free 30 minute Discovery Call to find out if I’m the right coach for you in 2015. 

In abundance,
Chrissy

Invest in Your Dream

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If you read my last post, you know this weekend I celebrated the completion of an international Certification Program for life coaches and entrepreneurs in Miami, Florida. While I have both Bachelors and Masters Degrees, this program required more energy, time, and focus than any of my previous education. The catch was- I was lit up throughout the process. I was living my purpose fueled by love rather than obligation, burden or pressure. 

It’s easy to say that I’m a completely different woman now. 14 months ago I was on my knees praying for a miracle. I quit my preschool job and wanted to be a coach, but didn’t know for the life of me how to start a business. I had given my services away for free, led donation-based workshops, and didn’t know how to receive compensation for my services without feeling massive amounts of guilt. While I already had a coaching certification, I had no idea how to package my expertise into a coaching business that generated a consistent income.

Little did I know that my “financial blueprint” was in the way.  My core beliefs about money were: Having money would make me a bad and selfish person. Having money would make me unlovable. How did these beliefs (which were out of reality FYI) play out? I’m sure you can guess. I charged close to nothing for my services and grew resentful, tired, and broke.

I was in survival mode 100% of the time which impacted my body, my relationships, and my spirituality. I rarely cared for my body’s needs and suffered in relationships by putting others’ feelings ahead of my own. I didn’t trust the inner wisdom of my true self. I knew I wanted to make a difference in the world, but I was stuck, lost, and confused.

Then enter Gina Devee- a Divine Living 7 figure success coach for female entrepreneurs. She showed up in my Facebook newsfeed through a free video series with a message that spoke to all my pain points as a woman on a mission to change the world. I was drawn to her spiritual, feminine, and intuitive leadership. Her mindset contained zero thoughts of burnout or overwhelm and she seemed genuinely happy. Turns out she takes tremendous care of herself and receives massive amounts of wealth in return.

The money she receives isn’t in excess- each dollar has a purpose. She’s clean with money and experiences money as energy. While I was attracted to the business structures she would help me create, my heart was most drawn to her level of wealth consciousness.

I watched one 15 minute video and started to cry knowing I had found the mentor to guide me out of my financial suffering and into the business of my dreams. I needed to work with her. It was a must. Within a couple of days I made the biggest investment in my personal development to date and began a love affair with myself, my tribe, and my purpose. Was it scary making a transaction that was 8x my rent? Of course, but that transaction was my wink to the universe saying that I was ready. Like I said earlier this week, “Your purpose should scare the shit out you.” The investment in your purpose should scare the crap out of you too.

If you have a dream, you have to be willing to invest in it. If you believe it, you will achieve it, and you have to be eager to pay for it. The money I used to fund this dream actually paid for the woman I’ve become in the process. That transaction was as powerful as it was spiritual. Making that payment left an imprint on my soul reminding me that my desires are worth it. I would have paid 10x the amount to be where I am now.

I’ve touched on many themes in this letter to you, themes that are worth excavating later in time (such as wealth consciousness, investing in your dream, and money). I invite now to investigate your own relationship with money.

If you were in a romantic relationship with money, how do you relate to it? Do you cheat? Do you ignore? Are you intimate?  Do you feel supported? Are you terrified? Do you notice yourself getting resentful or angry? Have a think, and keep your eyes peeled for another letter from me with tools to transform your relationship to money. We all have a money story, and every story deserves healing and attention. And in the meantime, I’d love to know what this exercise brings up for you. Please share your thoughts with me commenting below!! 

Until next time, know that your purpose is waiting for you to show up. Keep your visions, actions, and thoughts aligned with your desires, and trust that investing in those dreams is worth it.

Stay tuned for my next lesson on Money, Mindset, and Freedom. You won’t want to miss it. Inside I’ll share my new empowered beliefs about money and the tools you can use to relate to money in an inspired and loving way.

Your Purpose Should Scare the Shit Out of You

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Lesson #1 From Miami

Last Wednesday morning, I woke up spinning in fear. 14 months ago I made the biggest financial investment in myself as a transformational coach by registering for a 12 month long coaching and business certification program for women entrepreneurs, and this weekend was our graduation in Miami! This weekend marked our final conference to celebrate with 150 transformational coaches from all over the world. You’d think I’d be more excited to complete this journey, but the truth is, I was FREAKED OUT!

I was terrified. It didn’t help that the biggest storm in 8 years hit San Francisco the night I was supposed to fly, and my thoughts descended into excuses of: “I can’t go… it’s not safe to fly…the flight will cancel anyways so I should stay home…” You get the picture. Thanks to my training in mindfulness and transformation, I got back to reality and realized the core message of my fear.

“You’re not good enough.” Simple as that.

Ok. Got it fear. I hear you loud and clear. But the truth is, those maddening thoughts aren’t real. They come from my ego, a thought structure designed to keep us safe. I was expanding and growing out of my limiting fear system, and in turn my ego went bonkers.

If you’ve read my Fear to Fire workbook, you know that fear is rarely a response to what is happening in the moment. It feeds off memories from the past or worries about the future. It has a paralyzing, frozen quality. That’s where I was last Wednesday. I was frozen in fear responding to an old story of not being good enough.

This story started when I was six years old. I struggled in school and told myself over and over again that I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, or strong enough to succeed. I spent most of my childhood worried that I wouldn’t receive love from my teachers and peers due to my learning disabilities. Those fears were deeply triggered before I left for Miami, as I was afraid of feeling unworthy next to 150 successful life coaches with 6 figure businesses. My 6 year old comparisons fueled my ego into (almost) staying safe in San Francisco.

We have an opportunity in every moment to transform our fear into love. Fear can’t operate when love is present. I loved my inner 6 year old who was afraid to show up, and loved my present 28 year old self who had a big dream. I decided to trust my true self, the empowered part of me that bought the plane ticket to Miami and invested in a program that changed my life. I followed my fear straight to Miami, got on my flight despite the storm, and trusted that this fear was too powerful to ignore. Getting to Miami was a powerful act of self-love. Love trumps fear every. single. time.

I let my fear lead me out of the darkness and into the light.

When we dig into our fear, we unleash our courage. I got to Miami safe and sound, and made the commitment to be brave. I went to the microphone multiple times to share about my accomplishments. I didn’t give into old stories of not being good enough in comparison to my peers. I shared my success with love and confidence, and celebrated the accomplishments of others with my whole heart! There’s no shortage of achievement in this world, and when we celebrate the greatness of others, our own power expands in return.

The moral of this story: your purpose should the scare the shit out of you.

Follow your fear like it’s your job. If you want to live with purpose and empowerment, make sure that your actions push you out of your comfort zone.- that’s where the magic happens. Playing safe keeps you stagnant, and I know you want to come alive with extraordinary direction and passion. Let your fear ignite you out of the ordinary and into the legendary life you long for.

All my love,

Chrissy

How to Thrive When Things Suck

Last year, the jolly month of December turned into a difficult winter of tragedy and loss. I’m reminded of that time now because another friend lost his life, and I’m noticing the memories and pain flooding my heart again. Years ago, when faced with these painful emotions, I would numb out through prescription medication, drinking, or total avoidance through TV and other distractions. I kept my emotions inside. As you can guess, those methods didn’t help me at all and only made my pain worse. Here’s why.

Emotions are meant to move. The root of the word is from the French Emouvoir, to move.  Not only does it take TONS of energy to keep your emotions hidden inside, but denying them have harmful effects on your body and spirit (such as depression, insomnia, anxiety, or addictions). Then when you least expect it, those suppressed emotions get triggered and you find yourself acting out in ways that don’t align with your highest good. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Here are 3 ways to deal with your pain in healthy and responsible ways:

1. Welcome your pain.  As human beings we all have emotions and it’s important to give them space, even when your emotions are painful. This guided “Welcoming Meditation”  is an opportunity to welcome what is. Find a sacred space, and make a commitment to focus in on your uncomfortable emotion for 5-20 minutes. Some uncomfortable emotions might be fear, sadness, jealousy, anger, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, or grief etc.

  • The first step of this meditation is feeling your emotion instead of pushing it away. Feeling the sensations of that emotion in your body.
  • The second step is welcoming it and accepting it by saying in your mind’s eye, “welcome <insert emotion>.” Surround your emotion with love and compassion.
  • Go back and forth between steps one and two as long as it takes until the overwhelming quality of that feeling subsides.
  • The third step is surrender, saying in your mind’s eye, “I let go of control. I let go of the desire to change.”
  • The final step is letting go. If you can’t let it go, go through this whole meditation again. When you’re ready, say in your mind’s eye “I let go of <emotion>,” and watch it float away.

2. Turn your pain into art. Now that you have faced and felt your pain, you can free your pain through creativity. Choose any medium you desire. Watercolor, acrylics, sketching, etc.  One method that works wonders for me and my clients is collaging. This is where you give your emotion a voice, expression, and color. For every pain or uncomfortable emotion, find an image associated with it, and cut and glue each image, emotion by emotion onto a piece of paper. The result is two-fold: you get a beautiful art piece, and you get to witness your pain in a contained art-form outside yourself. National Geographic is a great magazine to use.

3. Emotional Release. This is probably the most important step: letting your emotions move. Give yourself permission to release your emotions through crying, (safely) punching your pillows, or even screaming into a pillow. If you feel resistant to doing this, I get it. This probably sounds ridiculous. But the truth is, the greater the resistance, the greater the wound.  Put on a song that evokes your emotion at hand, and give yourself the space to let go. Feel your body and it’s natural impulse, and then let it out. Stay fully present during this process; before, during and after. It’s called emotional release for a reason- you’ll feel a great amount of relief after just 90 seconds of crying, punching, or screaming. By moving your emotions, you free up your energy and create new space inside. 

My next retreat, Celebration of Woman, is the safest space to explore your emotions as a woman. It’s here that you will fall in love with yourself by releasing everything that holds you back from being happy and at peace. It was there that I found my freedom and in turn, my purpose as a women’s empowerment coach. It’s February 26th – March 1st in San Luis Obispo, California. To learn more about this workshop, I’m happy to have a free 30 minute consultation with you. To schedule your free call, sign up here.

It takes courage to feel your emotions, and I acknowledge you for exploring new ways to thrive, even when things suck.
Love,
Chrissy

The Practice of Gratitude

d5a59bfbb55ba6bd7cc31ff75be52f39Here in the States, the month of November always reminds me to be grateful. 

Experiencing gratitude is one of the most effective ways of getting in touch with your soul. When you’re in touch with your soul you eavesdrop on the wisdom of the universe. Gratitude is a super power. Gratitude is a major pillar of my coaching practice because it connects us to the present moment and pushes fear out of the way.  You can’t have fear and gratitude at the same time. When we practice gratitude, we have no choice but to embrace the wisdom of uncertainty.

Last week I led a workshop on Gratitude, and I included these questions in a guided meditation. I invite you to find some quiet time for yourself to explore these questions so you can fully experience all you have to be grateful for.

1. What relationships do you have that you cherish? Do you have an animal that you shower with affection? Is there a relationship that fills you? Let those relationships float into your awareness, and with your loving heart, I invite you to thank them energetically.

2. Who are your champions, defenders, and supporters? Who are your teammates in life? Who is out there rooting for you? With your gentle heart, send those teammates energetic love and gratitude now..

3. Notice how the universe has tested you lately.  What challenges are you facing? With grateful awareness, what are the gifts of these challenges? What lessons have you learned?

4. What special gifts do you offer the world? Your community? Your family? Notice the lives you’ve touched just by being you. What gifts are you thankful for in yourself?

I am deeply thankful for you. Because of women like you, I get to practice my purpose DAILY. Your heart is the reason I get up in the morning. 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING! If you don’t celebrate this holiday, I invite you to celebrate YOURSELF and the many contributions you bring to the world.

May you and all beings be happy,

Chrissy